Waking Up to Narcissism

Emotional maturity takes the long way home, and Homer's Odyssey has been quietly showing the way for 2,800 years. Underneath Christopher Nolan's new adaptation sits a poem that Tony Overbay, LMFT, thinks is one of the best pieces of therapy literature ever written, yet almost nobody reads it that way. The monsters aren't the point — they're the muse. Every obstacle Odysseus meet...

Content warning: This episode includes discussion of homicide, dismemberment, and domestic violence. Listener discretion advised. Robert Durst confessed on a hot mic — but the real story is watching a man confabulate in real time, for decades, and nearly get away with it. In the first-ever Murder on the Couch guest episode, Tony is joined by his friend Kate, a civil attorney...

What if the reason difficult conversations feel so impossible isn’t because you’re too sensitive, too anxious, or bad at communicating? What if you’ve spent years trying to find the perfect words—only to have your questions dismissed, your feelings turned against you, or the conversation somehow become about everything you did wrong? In this crossover episode of The Virtua...

Certainty isn't confidence. Often it's armor over deep insecurity—and it's how emotional immaturity and narcissism hide in plain sight. In this Q&A crossover, Tony works through three listener questions and lands on the one most relevant to anyone untangling a high-conflict or emotionally immature relationship: why the most certain, "I-know-everything" voices feel so magn...

Mindfulness isn't about emptying your mind or finally feeling calm—and believing it was is probably why you quit. Your emotions fire before your thinking brain ever catches up, which means most of your reactions—the defensiveness, the cravings, the snap judgments—are already in motion before you "decide" anything. In this conversation, Tony unpacks the neuroscience behind that ...