Beyond Success

You've spent years getting better at managing your time. But what if time management has been helping you avoid the harder problem?

Productivity works beautifully when the goal is getting more done. But some of the most important things in life can't be accelerated.

If you're single today, you cannot have a twenty-year marriage next year. To have a twenty-year m...

Most achievers believe that once they become successful professionally, then personal success will follow: the loving partner, the loyal friends, the children who still want to connect with them at fifty.

But it works the other way. Professional success can often cost most people their personal lives, and it can do the damage while they're doing everything else right.<...

You've watched a friend go through it. The house, the filing, the number the lawyer gave him. He built that business staying up late for years, and now he's watching half of it get divided by a stranger in a courtroom. You went home and did the math on your own situation that same night.

Two years in with a partner who seems good, but still no proposal. You tell people...

There are two kinds of success. From the outside they look a lot alike.

One of them you already know. Push through, exert your will, apply more effort to the friendships, the relationship, the career, even to your ability to relax.

That kind can work. But that's the trap. It pays out just enough to keep you doing it, while the bill accumulates somewhere you're n...

You set a number years ago. The exit, the money, the reputation you wanted to have earned. You then reached it.

So why doesn't the life feel the way you thought it would?

Here's what most people get wrong about that flatness. They read it as a verdict — like they climbed the wrong mountain, wanted the wrong things — and the fix is always the same. Downshift. Ste...